I’ve been wanting to write a post like this for such a long time but just did not know where to start – I’m going to blame it on having the biggest creative block ever.
Over the past few weeks I’ve had all the time in the world as I’ve patiently (but also very eagerly) been waiting to start a new job. With all of this new found freedom, there was probably no better time for me to go a little crazy and take every opportunity to be a social butterfly. Book a quick getaway, party with my friends, go on an adventure, write a bus load of blogs… essentially, I could have done whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.
But funnily enough, I actually spent the majority of this time alone and not doing very much and the truth is… I loved every second of it.
Some people think that being ‘alone’ is a bad thing. For me, being alone only becomes ‘bad’ when it turns in to loneliness, when you don’t quite have the option between hanging out and hanging alone. It can be a very fine line that is often misunderstood.
For me, choosing to spend time alone is perfectly normal and I find that it can infact do you a world of good. Here’s my reasons why.
It’s a way of recharging
After a few days of being surrounded by people 24/7 or even just after a night out , I start to crave my alone time. Sometimes, socialising can suck all the energy out of me. My tolerance to be around people starts to decrease and I lose the energy to talk and interact. It’s nothing personal, I’ve always been like this – part of me wants to blame it on my introvert tendencies. I’ve just always found that I recharge and regain my energy by hibernating for a few days and taking time for myself , whether that be with a pizza and binge-watch or a solo shopping spree.
It makes you appreciate the time you do spend with others
On the flip-side, when you do spend time by yourself so often, you learn to appreciate the company you keep a lot more. The excitement I feel when I make plans to catch up with my friends after not seeing them for a while is like no other. You discover who you miss, who you really want to invest your time in, who brings negativity and positivity to your life and you also begin to recognise the qualities that you truly value in friendships and relationships.
I’m more motivated
Some people thrive off of being around others but I find that it seriously affects my productivity and concentration as I get too distracted. When I have time to myself I’m able to really clear my head and envision the goals I want to achieve in the next week, month or year or so. I just feel like I am my biggest motivator. When I’m alone and I know I have time to be productive, my creativity is sparked and I feel like I can conquer anything.
Of course I am willing to share my ideas and ambitions with friends too. Sometimes motivational words and support can help to give you that final push.
I’m more independent
Learning to love your own company is one of the best ways to discover your ability to be independent. Once you start spending time alone, doing things alone, going places alone, you become more confident in yourself – that’s what I’ve found anyway. Unaccompanied shopping sprees aren’t as scary, adventures alone are awesome, cooking for one is fun and solo car journeys are therapeutic. Slowly but surely, you learn to love doing things for yourself, by yourself.
I get to do the things I enjoy
Sometimes being in a big group of people means a lot of compromise in order to suit everyone’s needs. One thing I take advantage of when I have time to myself is my freedom to do ALL the things I enjoy, to my own taste, when I want and how I want.
I get to reflect more often
Getting caught up in a chaotic lifestyle where you don’t have a moment to yourself can be overwhelming. Taking time to myself helps me to figure out my feelings and emotions and what I want to do with them. I’m able to grasp some perspective and understand what makes me happy, what makes me sad, and any changes I can possibly make to my life.
I don’t have to rely on anyone else
This is where the perfectionist in me comes out. The saying ‘if you want something done right, do it yourself,’ springs to mind. More often than not, I prefer to do things my way, without anyone telling me what to do. It’s a great way to learn how to stand on your own two feet and make decisions for yourself without having to seek validation from anyone.
I learn to love myself
The last on my list but ultimately the first step to enjoying being alone because if you don’t love yourself, how are you going to love your own company? When you take time to be alone, you also take time to focus on one thing… YOU. Alongside independence, you grow to love your self-confidence and self-worth. You slowly but surely learn to accept who you are, what you’re about and what you stand for, and you start to embrace it. When you feel yourself starting to accept who you are and not caring about the opinion of others, you become dangerously happy.
So, there we have it! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – sometimes there is nothing better than being your own best friend. I have absolutely no shame in opting out of a social event because I want to spend time by myself. In fact, I would probably urge more people to try it!