High school feels like a distant memory, my uni years went at the click of a finger and if I go to a club it’s packed with just-turned 18 year olds and I genuinely feel like a babysitter.
While 22 isn’t exactly a milestone birthday, it’s definitely one where you begin to question a lot of things. I’m well aware that I am very much still in my prime and have heaps more life lessons to learn, but in the meantime I couldn’t help but compile a little list of 22 things I’ve learned in my 22 years.
My number one rule that has been pummelled in to me by my Mother and I will carry with me until the day I die. Nothing annoys a person more than being kind to them, especially when they don’t really deserve it. Plus kindness wins, no matter what. 2. You’re going to lose friends
Sad but true. Some friends just aren’t in it for the long run and that’s fine. As people grow up, they change and you begin to realise who your true friends are. You’ll always treasure the memories but you’ll also learn it’s better to have a small group of amazing friends than a big group of just good ones.
3. Never over pluck your eyebrows
As much as I thank my Mum for not allowing me to go to school with a bushy monobrow, I now kinda wish I didn’t pluck away so much when I was younger. Having thick, bushy brows that I don’t have to draw on every morning would save me a lot of time.
4. Don’t settle for less than you deserve
Whether it’s a crappy relationship, an average job, a one-sided friendship or even a cheap bottle of wine at the end of the week – never settle. Always stay true to yourself and never feel bad for knowing exactly what you want and how to be treated. And if you’ve worked your ass off, buy that expensive bottle of red – you deserve the best.
5. Don’t change for anybody
There’s no point. If someone doesn’t like you for who you truly are then you don’t need them in your life.
6. Save money
Save, save, save. It’s getting harder and harder for young people to invest in anything worthwhile these days, be it a car, holiday or a house, so putting aside a few quid here and there will benefit you soooo much in the long run.
7. Time flies
This isn’t even a funny, throw away comment anymore. Time genuinely flies. I still double take when I realise we’re only three years away from 2020. Before I know it I’ll probably be married with kids. Stop wishing the days away and instead make the most of every moment.
8. Mum is always right
I don’t think I even need to write a paragraph for this one. She’s right, every damn time.
9. Stop worrying so much
I used to be (lowkey still am) a serial worrier. I’d worry about the smallest of things. Now I’m slowly starting to learn to take everything in my stride – what I can’t control, I shouldn’t worry about.
10. Not everyone has it figured out
This one is just a friendly reminder to not believe everything you see on Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. For some reason we are programmed to think that we should have our entire lives figured out by now, when in reality, that’s not the case and not all of our age mates do. Chances are most of us still probably have no clue what we are doing.
11. Drink water
The key to life – and glowing skin.
12. Try everything at least once
Whether it’s a new haircut, a new sport or a new food. Try everything at least once just so you can look back and say ‘I did that!’
13. Eat that second slice of pizza
To be honest I’ll tell you to eat that slice and more. There is nothing wrong with treating yourself to some junk food and you definitely shouldn’t feel guilty about it the day after. As long as it’s not 10 pizzas a day and you pop to the gym now and again, you’ll be fine.
14. Never go to bed mad
A rule I try to live by. There really isn’t any point in going to bed with a screw-face. You’ll only wake up the next morning feeling worse off. Sleep on it for sure, but never go to bed angry at someone or something.
15. Retail therapy really works
Feeling down? New shoes! Feeling lonely? New clothes! Get your ass down to Primark I say. Retail therapy is the best kind of therapy out there in my opinion – works every time.
16. Travel whenever you can
Whenever there is an opportunity, take it! Seeing and exploring the world is an experience like no other. You get to learn new cultures, try new foods, see new sights and nobody can take those memories away from you.
17. Don’t drunk text
Give your phone to someone else, turn it off, don’t even take it out with you. Just do not text when you can’t even remember your own name.
18. Not everyone has the same heart as you do
You can give, give, give and get nothing back. You can do everything and more and it still won’t be enough. Sadly, not everyone shares the same heart. It’s not a bad thing but just choose wisely who you invest your time and emotion in.
19. Stay humble
Nobody likes a show-off and if things go tits up (and they generally do,) you will look like an idiot. Of course if you’ve just landed your dream job or finally bought your dream house, celebrate! But never forget where you started and where you came from.
20. Boys will always come running back
One of my favourites. There’s a 99.9% chance that ‘that boy’ will come running back because they finally realise how fabulous you are and what they could have had. Unfortunately for them, that ship has sailed…
21. People want you to be successful, but not more than them
Funny one this one. People will wish you success but when the time actually comes, deep down they’re waiting to see you fail. Pay them no attention and keep doing you.
22. I am definitely not an adult yet
Maybe I’ll try again next year.